It won’t happen to me!
Many people go through life with the attitude of ‘it won’t happen to me’. I never ceased to be surprised at this attitude How do they know? How can they be sure? What do they know that I don’t? Also I try to get the answer to the question “what is It, that won't happen to them”? That answer often eludes the individual as well as me.
There are some sure things we know that will happen, if we are lucky we will get old, we know we will eventually die, there are other certainties in life too which we can all think of. But most of us hope nothing too bad will happen, that to me seems a sensible approach to life, to reduce risk and to avoid pitfalls when we seen them, to learn from our mistakes, and to look after ourselves the best we can.
There is however one other certainty I know, and that is, when ‘It’ does happen to them, it comes as a shock. ‘It’ might be getting stressed, anxious, an accident, or the results of being reckless, or a life threatening disease. When I meet people with this attitude, they often also have other accompanying attitudes ‘It wasn’t my fault or ‘it wasn’t my responsibility’. And they often find that when ‘It’ does happen, then the other attitudes often seen flimsy at the best.
The reality is we are responsible for ourselves and our actions, we choose what we do and what we choose not to do. Amongst them we choose to adopt the attitudes we do, we take responsibility for their outcomes. Those with the attitude of it wont happen to me are often shocked when ‘It’ does happen.
They reason how did this or that happen? I just didn’t see it coming is often another comment made. Well the reality is, life does throw us unexpected issues to deal with. The smoker who suddenly finds they have a smoking related illness, the compulsive worker who gets stressed out or develops ulcers, and the loud self opinionated person who suddenly realises they have no friends, the stressed out person who pushes a loving partner too far, only to be left with memories of what they once had.
My experience with these people is that when we end up working together, bearing in mind for many of these people complementary therapy of any description was, until needed ‘nothing but humbug’ I find their journey is often harder for them and me, and generally more frequently self sabotaged than those that I view hold a more balanced view.
What we tell ourselves has a powerful effect over the way we think and feel and the way we behave and generally live our lives. ‘Self-speak’, as I like to term it, can help us through life much more than many people think. Think positive, think realistically, remembering none of us are superhuman, and that we all at sometime in our lives need help, guidance and understanding. For those who have not yet grasped this concept in life, then they will find that life is a good teacher, and what lessons we don’t learn, will come around again until we do!
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