In this moment, as you read this article, do you feel good?
Is your confidence good? Is your self-esteem where you want it to be? Do you feel you can take on the world and beat it? If you answered yes to any of those questions you are definitely doing something right!
How do you do it? How do you stay feeling good? Is it with the help of cigarettes or e-cigarettes? A bottle of wine or a few pints in the evening? Or do you exercise and get the natural well-being feelings which exercise gives us?
Only you dear reader, will know the real answer.
However I do know that many people go through life ‘putting a face on’, pretending all is fine and just getting on with everyday routines. For many confidence is low, but they pretend to themselves and others there is no problem. Denial adds to the problem, it takes emotional energy to keep smiling, to pretend, to just try and ignore problems and feelings of stress, anxiety, upset, and distress. However sooner or later the mask will fall, and then, people start to look for people like me. To make things right, and I often can, given a chance.
But in this day and age it’s easier to hit the bottle, or as we call it now, chilling with a bottle of wine. Walk past the nail bars and the hairdressers and you see the numbers of people putting on their metaphorical faces of confidence. However, confidence and self-esteem comes from within.
It doesn’t matter how you look it matters how you feel, and ultimatly it will be how you feel that makes or breaks your life!
It takes a brave person to look within themselves and to recognise change is needed. It takes some work, some learning and some trust too. And yet that is what all the people I work with have done. They have been brave enough to look at themselves or their circumstances and decide they need a bit of help, guidance and encouragement.
So what is the cost of feeling good?
There is the cost of time and effort, a financial cost too of course, but the cost is worth paying because until you have harmony in yourself, you are not living to your full capacity.
Stress will come and go, financial problems will come and go, some people in your life will come and go, but finding your internal balance and harmony is a skill, it can become a powerhouse to move you on in exciting new directions, help you to see new opportunities, see your own potential in a way that you never realised.
Some readers will not be able to relate to what I am saying here, and that’s fine, it is about timing, sooner or later we all recognise that we need a little help, guidance and encouragement. The danger comes when we realise it and we ignore it.
Because then poor coping strategies like drinking and smoking impact us physically. Denial drives down mood, causes anxiety and possible depression. When you have looked inside and you see the need for change, come and have a chat with me and let’s see how we can make positive change – that lasts!
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